My Attitude Test

Two very good friends of mine and an amazing couple invited me to usher at their wedding on the beach in Seattle at Shilshole Bay.
I immediately agreed and also found out they didn’t have a videographer so as I my wedding gift I decided to shoot the wedding and reception and make them a beautiful DVD.

The venue and wedding was fantastic and I got great shots of the whole thing. You can see what I mean by looking at the video below. After the ceremony I checked the camera a little to get ready for the reception and all of a sudden the camera screen said hard drive needs to be initialized, start now ?

Of course I carefully clicked no and checked the camera again. Hard drive empty. The whole waterfront wedding, the interviews I’d done, the bridesmaid photo shoot, Gone. Not to mention the other videos I had of some recent speaking engagements and trainings. I was sick. First time in my life I was tempted to throw a piece of electronic equipment into the ocean.

As I sat there feeling sick, I couldn’t stand, I just kept thinking about what a gorgeous wedding and life event for my good friends that was gone, especially after I had run around the ceremony like a monkey on crack trying to get the perfect shots. I was almost ready to just throw in the towel and try to have fun at the reception and then the consultant and motivational speaker in me surfaced, just in time.

As I started coaching myself I went through the following exercise:

I asked myself, “What would a loser do right now?”

Probably the same thing I was doing which was to feel sorry for themselves and absolutely let it take over their attitude and ruin the whole day. Forget that !

“What would an average person do?”

Probably hit the open bar with a vengeance and try to forget the whole thing by getting drunk and trying to still have a good time at the reception. After all there were still a lot of cute bridesmaids to flirt with. No, that’s not my answer either.

“What would a winner do, or in other words what do I want to remember about how I handled this incredibly negative circumstance and still had a great day and created a great remembrance for my friends ?”

I am going to shoot the crap out of this reception, reshoot at least the views from where the ceremony took place and definitely keep it to myself about the meltdown so it didn’t affect anyone else especially the bride and groom.

The reception was fantastic and easily as awesome as the wedding was and I got it all. Not only that I made a deal with the photographers and they were willing to email me the photos they shot of the wedding so I could use them as a slideshow for the beginning of my video and it only cost me a copy of my E-Book “Master Your Internet Presence” as they were just getting started trying to do more business online.

I’m the first to admit my attitude was shot well not just shot but destroyed however with the little pep talk I gave myself I was able to limit it to 10 minutes of negativity and turn it around almost immediately to get more than enough footage to create a really cool video.

Additionally when I got home to quickly download the video I did get before the camera initialized again I found that even though none of the video showed on the camera every bit of it was still there when I used my computer to download it. (That’s the reason you can still see it in the video)

So as I said it was definitely an attitude test for me which I feel like I passed with flying colors and in the end it could have ruined the whole day for me and the reception video for in fact no reason at all. Hopefully something else of value will come out of this if this posting helps even one person to get through a tough attitude test with flying colors.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqBl0ePcM-Q

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Goal Based Priorities Management Chapter 7

Chapter Seven – Goal Setting Tips

Whatever the Mind can Conceive and Believe, it will achieve.

There are 2 types of Goals:

• Goals that are stepping stones to get you to your ultimate goals
• Goals that provide a deep personal sense of significance

What is your passion? purpose?

What would give you a deep sense of contentment?

What are the desires of your heart?

There are 5 areas of your life that you need to be intentional about and setting goals will help you accomplish this. Describe in present tense your perfect life in all areas:

• Spiritual and Ethical
• Family and Home
• Financial and Career
• Business and Legacy
• Personal Relationships

Always set your goals and speak to yourself in the positive. Your mind doesn’t understand negative speak, so when you tell yourself I won’t eat garbage, it hears eat garbage. You need to say it in the positive, I will eat healthy, not I won’t eat poorly. Your subconscious mind is a very efficient tool, but it can’t determine right from wrong and it does not judge. It’s only function is to carry out its instructions. The more positive instructions you give it, the more positive results you will get.

You need to change your scripting, change what you say to yourself.

You can make an action a habit in 21 days.

(Like using your daily Blueprint, monitoring goal progress or making daily affirmations)

You become what you have in your mind and think about most.

You have 250,000 fleeting thoughts a day in your left brain or conscious mind, your right brain or subconscious mind is asking, what do you want?

Unless you are specific in writing and what you speak, your brain can’t tell which thoughts are fleeting and which ones it needs to really consider and work on.

When you read your goals out loud 5 to10 times a day, your right brain says, “OH! OK! Now I know what it is you want in your life”, and starts working overtime to help you achieve what you want. It’s sole function is to deliver to you what your left brain or conscious mind conveys it wants.

Something happens when we write things down. Nobody could build a computer more powerful or more capable to give you everything you want for your life then your brain. Make sure the software you put in your brain is perfectly clear.

Daily Affirmations are very important. Look at your Goals Page and read them out loud every morning and every evening.

Put An MGM Movie Studio In Your Head! Sentences can immediately bring pictures to your mind. The brain thinks in pictures. An understanding of this is important when reaching goals.

Once again we are giving the subconscious mind a detailed set of instructions to work on. The more information you give it, the more clear the final outcome becomes. The more precise the outcome, the more efficient the subconscious mind can become.

Instead of writing, “A new home,” write “A 4,000 square foot contemporary home with 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms with a view of the mountains on a half acre of land on lake Washington with a private dock, a swimming pool and a seaplane in a hanger.”

Your subconscious mind will always try to bring you to what it sees as normal for you. We are not programmed to embrace change. Why do you think so many people never make any significant changes in:

• Their lives
• The amount of their Incomes
• Their Net Worth
• Their Personal relationships
• Their Family relationships
• Their Health

Every time they try to make a change, their subconscious keeps bringing them back to what it sees as normal for them. They are constantly working against their subconscious mind with their conscious one and they can’t win because the subconscious mind works 24 hours a day, even when they are sleeping. The conscious mind only works when you are consciously thinking about what it is you want to accomplish, and how often do you really have the chance to do that?

The trick is to picture, so vividly in your mind what you want as if it is already your reality, so that you can make your subconscious mind believe that this is what is normal for you.

Your subconscious will start working with you instead of against you, to get you there. It will work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, while you are awake or sleeping.

Opportunities that have been there all the time, that you have been missing, will start popping up in front of you like magic, like blinding flashes of the obvious.

There are some tips that will help multiply the speed at which you achieve your goals:

Use pictures, pictures of what you want will help you to communicate with your subconscious

Affirmations are extremely powerful.

Repeating out loud with conviction, “I am a calm, peaceful and happy person”, has been proven to help lower stress levels and even reduce blood pressure.

Attitude is the most important decision you will make today and everyday.

The more positive your attitude, the higher your chance to overcome obstacles, and make progress towards your Goals.

At any given moment you feel the way you do because of the types of thoughts that you have on your mind. You can control the thoughts you have on your mind, which means at any given moment you can control how you feel.

Think about this, if you had intentionally set goals 5 years ago, how would your life be different right now?

Visualize the life want as vividly as you can:

• What it looks like
• Sounds like
• Smells like
• Tastes like
• How you feel
• The emotions it gives you
• How it makes other people feel when they are around you

There are lots of reasons people don’t set goals:

• They are bored with life and they don’t get up with a burning desire to achieve
• They have never set goals or enough meaningful ones in the past
• FEAR
  • Fear of failure
  • False Evidence Appearing Real
  • Fear of rejection
  • Fools Easily Accept Rejection
• Poor self image
• Shows peoples biggest weaknesses

No one can go back and make a brand new start, but anyone can start today and make a brand new ending.

Get a clear mental picture of the goal already accomplished. Make the mental image crystal clear, vivid in the mind’s eye. Play that picture over and over in your mind.

Develop a desire to achieve the goal. The desire must be intense. How do you intensify desire? Sit down and write out all the benefits and advantages to your life of achieving your goal. Once the list gets between 50 and 100, your goal becomes unstoppable.